Santorum surge is scary in so many ways.

I never wanted to get into politics on this site.  I just wanted to do some light-hearted writing about my experiences in love and my career, and also have some fun with shoes and women’s fashion.  But after last night’s Iowa caucus voting, I can’t help it.  The fact that any person, particularly any woman or minority, actually cast a vote for Rick Santorum is just shameful and mind-boggling.  Who are these people?  I found a BuzzFeed article with photos of supporters.  They look like they couldn’t be happier if they had just watched the public stoning of a hooker.  I am from Pennsylvania where he was a two-term senator, and we could not wait to vote him out.  He lost miserably to Senator Casey, but really, he would have lost to a jug of stale milk if we had the option to vote for that.

I did a quick Google image search for him to get this. It was the only picture that didn't make me cringe and shutter. Courtesy: MadMikesAmerica

I don’t despise Santorum because he is a conservative.  It’s because he thinks the Bible is the law of the land.   For Christians, the Bible is supposed to be your own moral code, not used to rule and create laws that all citizens must follow.   Santorum has used the Bible to defend his views, which are anti-minority, anti-middle and poor class, anti-gay, anti-progress, and – most importantly to me – anti-women.  It’s like the guy wants to start his own Crusades!  And on that note, his views on foreign policy are anything but anti-war.  The guy would bomb anyone in the name of Jesus and “traditional” American values.

I think this site sums up exactly why the guy is completely out of touch with reality.  It’s a list of the 10 worst things he has said on the campaign trail.  This doesn’t even include things he has said while a Senator, in his books, or before he started campaigning.

What is scariest to me is that he has said, if elected president, he will abolish all federal funding for contraception and allow states to abolish birth control.  I don’t think any state could ever do that, but we cannot have a presidential candidate going around saying this is a good idea.  In his book, he writes about working mothers being the reason for the decline of American families and society.  He believes that moms not being at home to raise children is why kids turn to drugs and drop out of schools.  Moms providing a second income, he writes, “provides a convenient rationalization for pursuing a gratifying career outside the home.”   Someone please send this guy back to the 1900’s.

I don’t think I need to talk about his views on same-sex marriage.  That topic has been discussed and at this point is like beating a dead horse (an act that he probably likens to gay sex).  He is just awful and has no place in American society, much less the White House.

Even if you hate Obama, Rick Santorum is not the answer.  I think most Americans know this, but the fact that he is even a topic of conversation right now is scary.  Iowa, as a state where same-sex marriage is legal, I expected more out of you.  I invite anyone woman who voted for him yesterday to please email me:, and just please answer, “Why?”

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FYR: Dating advice from the ’30’s

Saw this the other day and thought I would share.  Dating advice from the ’30’s.  I love these vintage ads and articles that are all about catering 100% to the guy and his needs, likes and interests.  And I only like them because we’ve come so far with gender equality in terms of dating that we can actually consider this humorous.  It makes me wonder at what point did something like “Men deserve your entire attention,” become so ridiculous.

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FYR: I’m a sucker for “Ultimate Proposal”

A shot from "Ultimate Proposal." I teared up well before he got down on one knee.

So I know the whole theme of my blog being love and career and how we can’t have both may seem pretty cynical. But, while I am super focused on my career like so many 20- and 30- something women, let’s face it, I am a hopeless romantic.  My newest obsession: “Ultimate Proposal” on Yahoo.  OMG, ladies, have you seen this?  The latest episode with James and Chantelle, where he plans a proposal in the middle of the skating rink at Rockefeller Center has been my favorite so far.  I just love how these guys plan the most spectacular ways of asking their girlfriends to marry them.  The proposals are like something that you only see in the movies, but they are real people!  Kate & Leo, Bella & Edward, and Romeo & Juliet have nothing on these couples.   Maybe I like this show so much, not just because I have a softer side, but because I’m one of those people that doesn’t half-ass anything when it comes to my career or my relationship.  And so it’s nice to see guys that put forth so much effort and settle for nothing but the very best when it comes to their ladies.

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Daily Shoe-topia: My new Calvin Klein black boots

Calvin Klein "Gisela" boots in black suede. Available at And they're mine, all mine!

Happy Holidays, everyone!  I am taking this one day to brag about an incredible shoe find… Merry Christmas to me!  A few weeks ago I posted that I can never find the most perfect black boot.  Well today I did!  It’s a beautiful pair by Calvin Klein.  They are over the knee (just a big naughty, I know), with a little slouch and a nice high but sturdy heel.  Oh, it was love and first sight…. followed by “What do you think?” photos to my girlfriends.  Of course they approved!  Now, as my readers know, my shoe tastes know no price tag.  But, would you believe that I got these at Marshals for $69??!!!  Regularly priced $259, and I found the last pair in exactly my size!  Yes, Virginia, there really IS a Santa Claus!

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Quotes we love: Laozi

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ~ Laozi, Chinese philosopher

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FYI: Obama and the morning-after pill

Before I go into my thoughts on this, I will just say that I am 100% for women’s rights, birth control, pro-choice, and all that jazz.   Last week, President Obama supported restrictions on allowing Plan B to be available without a prescription.  A lot of women’s rights groups were pretty upset by this.   I agree with him that there should be restrictions, but I will also say that getting a prescription isn’t necessary.  A woman only has 72 hours to take it after having unprotected sex for it to be effective.  My goodness, how many of us can actually get an appointment with our doctors/gynos and get a prescription within 72 hours?

Plan B, emergency contraception or “the morning-after pill” SHOULD be readily available for all women who need it.  However, as someone who has taken it, I believe that it should only be dispensed by a medical professional (doctor, nurse, pharmacist, etc.).  It is a drug.  It messes with your body and throws you completely out of whack.  But, thankfully, it leads to peace of mind and no babies!

Plan B is wonderful in cases of emergency, but it should not be taken lightly.  It ain’t candy, folks! So it should not be on store shelves right next to condoms. I can’t imagine young girls thinking that they can mess around, then just go to Rite-Aid, pop a pill and … *poof* … no babies and no consequences.  Just as the name states, it is “Plan B.”  If it were on shelves, too many women would use it as their main form of birth control.

Like Obama said, let’s just practice some common sense.  If you are not responsible, and you are having unprotected sex, then you need to speak to a medical professional (and please, get yourself tested!).  But in cases of broken condoms, lapses in birth control, or sexual abuse, a woman should be able to get Plan B when she needs it.  I just think that for girls under 17, it should only be given out along with some advice and caution by a doctor, pharmacist, school nurse or counselor.

So while I am all for women’s rights, I am more for women being smart and responsible with what we’re putting into our bodies. If you are having unprotected sex, and are too embarrassed to speak to your parents, doctor, nurse or pharmacist to get Plan B or some form of birth control, then you shouldn’t be having sex.   Young girls need to be educated, not ashamed or afraid when it comes to asking about birth control and sex.

I will say, though, that I am thrilled that we have reached the point where THIS is our debate.  I don’t even know if Plan B was around 10 years ago.  The fact that Plan B is now in pharmacies and women over 18 can get it without a doctor’s appointment, health insurance or prescription (at least in most cities) is amazing.

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Daily Shoe-topia: Black Boots by Michael Kors

MICHAEL boots by Michael Kors in black. Available at

If you can believe it, out of my ENTIRE shoe collection I do not have one of the most staple-iest of staples: A simple, black boot.   Every girl NEEDS one, and I think I am the only one who doesn’t have one.  The problem is that I am picky with my boots (hence, why I have a few pairs from Frye – they’re just too perfect!).  I like a great 4″ heel, but not too thin and not too boxy.  Also, I have short legs so I don’t like boots that make them look even shorter.  I like them loose, but not too slouchy.  See, I’m picky.  I almost gave up on my hunt…. until I found these!  They are simple and sleek and will hit right at the knee.  Gorgeous!  Oh Michael Kors, you know what I like.

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